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The Essence of Homesickness

The Essence of Homesickness

Homesickness

I Am Homesick

By Gundula Rabien

I’ve recently returned to this wonderful north country after spending many years living and working in Germany. I was born here and the north will always have a special place in my heart.
The following story/account is a result of my experiences.

I am homesick.

I have been homesick all of my life.

What constitutes that pain in my heart, my stomach, my whole being? How do I describe that feeling that has haunted me from my first reflective moments onwards right until today?

Lonely Rural Community

Growing up in a German immigrant family in the 50’s and 60’s in a very lonely rural community in northern BC we hung on to old German traditions. Our lullabies were German, our fairy tales were German, our Christmas songs were German and our language at home was German.

I was the first one of the children to be born here in Canada and I felt very Canadian compared to my older siblings who were immigrants like my parents. But, I also felt incomplete, as if a part of me was missing. I couldn’t ever imagine marrying someone who spoke no German, who didn’t celebrate the German Christmas Eve and who wasn’t German.

I was homesick for a home I never knew, for a country I had never seen and for relatives I had never met.

Off To Germany

When I was 18, I left Canada and went to Germany, meaning to stay only a year to get my German fluent and to get to know our relatives. I ended up getting married and in the end, lived in Germany for 36 years. Four wonderful children and a fulfilling and varied career filled those years, as well as two broken marriages and a serious battle with cancer.

But, I was homesick. All those years I was homesick. I yearned for my family, I longed for my mountains. I missed the smell of the Pacific. I couldn’t get used to city life. I couldn’t replace the friends that I’d left behind. I never did adapt to the foreign way of life, even though it wasn’t really foreign.

Return To Canada

So, I returned to Canada, leaving my grown children and very good friends in Germany. I returned to the lonely rural area where I was born into the wilderness beneath the snowy mountains. I returned to battle my homesickness that I would carry with me for the rest of my life.

I am German, yet I am Canadian.

I am Canadian, yet I am German.

I have roots in both worlds.

I have a life in both worlds.

So, I’ll continue being homesick no matter where I am.

Lonely Bench - Homesick

Roots In Both Worlds

My situation always reminds me of our aunt, who lived with us when we were children. She hadn’t really meant to immigrate to Canada. She’d only meant to assist my mother with the difficult task of immigrating in the early 50’s on an old overbooked ship with four small children. She meant to return to Germany. But she didn’t. She became Canadian along with my parents.

She returned to Germany as often as she could, usually every two years for a summer holiday, but she always returned to Canada. She was perpetually homesick for Germany when she was in Canada. She missed the relatives and she missed the cultural opportunities that she didn’t have “in the bush”. But, she was also immediately homesick for Canada when she was with the relatives in Germany.

Immigrants Often Battle Homesickness

Immigrants often battle homesickness, but as a child and a teenager I wasn’t an immigrant myself. I “inherited” the feeling from my family and integrated it into my life. It became a central feeling in my life and the motivation behind many decisions.

In the meantime, I’ve accepted the fact that I will never “heal” my homesickness. It has become a part of me. I will yearn and long and pine and want no matter where I am. I’m glad I am Canadian and live in Canada, but my German roots will stay an integral part of me.

And I am homesick.

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